{"id":7415,"date":"2024-11-19T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2024-11-19T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/galenika.com\/nemoj-da-mi-kazes-volim-te-vec\/"},"modified":"2025-02-20T09:11:14","modified_gmt":"2025-02-20T09:11:14","slug":"dont-tell-me-i-love-you-but","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/galenika.com\/en\/dont-tell-me-i-love-you-but\/","title":{"rendered":"Don\u2019t tell me \u201cI love you,\u201d but\u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"\r\n

Let\u2019s face the truth: us men definitely enjoy attention. Let\u2019s accept that the smell of freshly brewed coffee pleases us more than a Nuggets win in the NBA. Let\u2019s admit that we too love receiving New Year\u2019s gifts and that anniversaries unfairly come with a bouquet and a jewelry box, while we leave with a hug and her big smile.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

When it comes to showing love, for a 45-year-old man and a 25-year-old, it definitely looks different. At 25, I was overjoyed when my girlfriend at the time would place her hand over my knee at the club, marking me as hers. I don\u2019t judge that as wrong, but rather appropriate for those years. Now, in a serious relationship at 45, I realize that it\u2019s no longer enough to be marked by a hand over my knee. I know that the chicken soup I had last month was more valuable than a “Breitling shark” when I was shaking with fever.<\/p>\r\n

The pace we live at leaves its mark on the body, health, and energy. Having a responsible position at a serious corporation doesn\u2019t allow for shaky knees. It doesn\u2019t allow for a weakened immune system, fatigue, bad moods, or drowsiness during briefings and so on.<\/p>\r\n

Finally, I can say that I\u2019ve prioritized life\u2019s tasks. It took time, experience, and a lot of wisdom. It required controlling my bursts of anger and turning them into productivity. A lot of this was aided by an unsuccessful marriage, dizzying career success, extensive travel, training, and most importantly, the years.<\/p>\r\n

My daily routine starts with a good meal and a solid workout, giving me a serious challenge because there’s no room for slack. Never enough carbs, vitamins, complexes, powders, who knows what kind of supplements that boost the mind and body. I don\u2019t even remember when I took what, what I drank, and what I mixed… Total chaos.<\/p>\r\n

Anniversaries? I don\u2019t remember them…<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

I\u2019m not a member of the romantic men\u2019s club that loves clich\u00e9s like \u201ccandlelit dinners.\u201d I prefer that sincerity speaks through small gestures of attention. I\u2019ve gone through a marriage, albeit a short one, where love came down to Instagram-worthy dates and pre-ordered gifts for important dates.<\/p>\r\n

Once bitten, twice shy… I know what to expect in my mature years. It\u2019s not a problem to buy a gift\u2014I do it with pleasure\u2014but when it comes to gender equality, I expect at least a small sign that the other person cares about me just as much.<\/p>\r\n

A year ago, after a particularly tough quarter\u2014good results, of course\u2014I started noticing that I was lacking energy. My hair was thinning, workouts were getting tougher. My partner Mina and I celebrated an important date, and somehow a \u201cmemories\u201d reminder popped up on social media. I didn\u2019t announce the trip, gifts, or dinners pompously; instead, I spontaneously organized a little getaway for two days in a cabin. I thought we\u2019d enjoy a private celebration, just the two of us, a cabin on Kosmaj and a jacuzzi. I told myself, “Let me see if this is real and genuine, so I know where I stand.”<\/p>\r\n

No big gift, no “botanical garden” in my hands for the perfect IG photo. The vibe was great\u2014music in the car, beautiful weather, everything was perfect. We arrived at the cabin in the evening, and I took out a bag from the trunk with a few things from the store, and she smiled. I saw no disappointment. It started off well, I thought. I asked her if she knew why we were there, and she shyly smiled and didn\u2019t want to give it away. It was all sweet, but let\u2019s see how it goes.<\/p>\r\n

We prepared dinner together, ate, enjoyed a drink and some music, when suddenly, Mina walked out of the room. She came back with a little bag. I was honestly confused, without a prepared gift, and she had a bag. She pulled out a gift\u2014 a money clip in a plush box and a box of pills. I was stunned, but so much that I couldn\u2019t hide it. Her comment was worth more than anything in the world: \u201cI see you\u2019ve been exhausted lately, and it bothers me. I want you to be healthy, happy, and energetic because only then are you good for yourself and for those who love you. I\u2019ll help with that too,\u201d she said, \u201cnot just supplements.\u201d What a gesture! That\u2019s it. I understood there was no mistake and that I was on the right track. How could I not love her? Someone who cares about you and puts you first. That\u2019s my Mina. She puts you before what others might say about us, before how everything will look on social media, and before whether I\u2019ve satisfied her ego.<\/p>\r\n

The Routine I Look Forward To<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

Time hasn\u2019t passed me by. I\u2019m not yet past my prime, as they say. I\u2019ve simply put some things in my life in the right order. My workouts are now much better quality, I\u2019m calmer, and more productive in every sense of the word. I handle work really well and am eager for challenges. I have patience for Mina, for the little things that matter to her. I notice the attention she gives me and don\u2019t resist it. Because, let\u2019s be honest, every one of us enjoys attention, a smile, and a kind word when I\u2019m off to work with her asking, \u201cDid you take your vitamins this morning?\u201d<\/p>\r\n

She says she\u2019s done some research online and found Oligovit HIS, a supplement specifically for men that\u2019s also beneficial for sexual health. And then with a smile, she winks and says, \u201cWe\u2019ll need you to stay this good for a long time.\u201d Instead of “I love you,” let her take care of me this way. That\u2019s worth more than a thousand words.<\/p>\r\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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